Wednesday, January 11, 2012

the life of a woman

the life of a woman is in a way entwined with that of a man. how much ever the feminist in me tries to defy this statement, deep down, she knows it is the truth. take our birth for instance..even though, it is the woman who gives birth, almost all the daughters are mesmerized with their fathers.till teenage, it is the father who catches the fantasy of the young girl. dropping off at school, helping her get ready in the morning, solving mathematical problems and of course, the occasional treats, the father is there in all...
younger brother....need to take care of him.... bring him up in a good way( hoping that he doesnt get misled by your behavior). being the guardian when he is getting ragged or just being his mentor whenever he is in distress.. a different role yet again..
first crush... first love...and the likes...if the guy is happy, you are jubilant.if he is sad, you are depressed. somehow the outcomes in his life has a greater impact on the girl's life.
marriage...this one according to me looks the most crucial in making or breaking a girl's life..,. out of the blue, you have to adjust to another set of relatives...their whims and fancies...caught between toeing the line and making everybody happy, the girl realizes that she is lost. amidst all the hue and cry created about the union, congruence and the likes, neither does she have her father to protect her nor does she have a brother's shoulder to lean on...her own friends at different stages in life cycle can no longer relate to the new problems faced by her... the husband himself is a new character..too early to trust and pour out your misgivings to...the mother suddenly starts treating her daughter as a grown up girl...faced with all these expectations from different quarters, she feels isolated, alone...

4 comments:

Pramod Kannan said...
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Pramod Kannan said...

you getting to0 nervous and hyper.. Chill, i can understand.. Everything will be fine.. I shall be with you always at your distance... :)

CM-Chap said...

After long time a thoughtful post from you... Good job. Take it easy. All is well.

abates said...

It's raining outside and as I surf the web I found your post on dads, men, etc. Thanks for writing it. It's good to know that intelligent women can still see value in man - the father, husband, lover, brother. We are not perfect but even when we are not, we are beings just like women are beings. I'm far from a good man. I done things that I regret. But as I see my life I find that my faults are part of life. Anyway, let me not ramble and just say thanks.